The Struggle of a Girl who likes a Boy who also likes Boys

Not your typical love story because a girl woke up and fell in love with a gay sweetheart. It’s a tough journey.

I’m a bisexual girl who happens to like girls a lot. I had two ex girlfriends and zero boyfriends in the past though I dated a few guys too. For the past years, some people considered me as lesbian already as my interest in men almost hit the rock bottom while women gets my attention effortlessly. As I get to meet more people and evaluate myself, I kinda realize maybe I’m demisexual or something. It’s so easy to be interested with anyone but it’s a different story to fall in love with someone.

I have this circle of friends at school called marupoks whom I am badly attached and close to. We go on adventures together, share little secrets, get drunk, sneak out, cry together and I have to say that there is one special person in my circle, let’s name him ‘K’.

Let’s drop the bomb, K is gay. Not the guy looking gay but he is very gay. The moment he speaks, the moment he moves, the moment you hear him, you know he is that gay. So cute.

In our circle, we have bisexual guys too who acts feminine too but I have to say that K is the girliest of them all, maybe even girlier than the other real girls in our squad lol. Still cute.

K and I? We weren’t really close. We share jokes — he is witty and very funny — and stories and hang out but we’re not that tight. If you leave us together in a room — just us — there might be some awkward silence. You know?

I don’t really pay attention to him that much, he was just a normal school friend before though there are times he is there drinking with me and some of our mutuals, he heard my tragic story about my ex girlfriend, he heard the complicated stuffs about me and my love life and my mind bleh. He’s a good listener in my opinion, but then one day I woke up and asked myself: He always listen, not just to me but to each of the squad’s stories, but did I ever try to listen to him? That’s the time I started to notice him.

His eyelashes are so long, his skin glows, it fascinates me to stare at him when he talks. Our squad is composed of about 11 members so it’s kinda hard to speak in big groups, some won’t pay attention, some gets distracted, some may not even know you’re speaking but when he speaks, I try my best to listen. And then I knew a little bit about his story.

He’s either sleeping or laughing or smiling. But then behind those happy and sleepy bean, there is another book.

A broken family that he keeps wishing to be complete again. Struggles in life to survive this cruel world. He needed to work while studying to help his family and himself. Jeez. I can’t imagine myself being in such situation considering that I am so lazy and my family are well and stable, we never really had financial problems or anything related to that.

I remember what K said, he was like the mother and father to his own family. Masyadong maaga pa but he had no choice. Sucks. Now he works at a fast food chain — Jollibee, my favorite, lol!

You know what’s so fascinating about it? He loves his work. I don’t think it’s just because of the money he earns from it but he is that appreciative kind of person. Maybe he appreciates his colleagues, his manager, the fast food chain itself, the operations, the memories that he learned to naturally love what he is doing. Imagine that? Instead of cursing and going like “Hay nako may duty nanaman ako.” He goes like “May duty ako.” There’s a difference.

I can feel his passion and care for the place he works on. It’s amusing and sweet at the same time. He is really appreciative of things — very.

He also do sidelines to earn, that’s so diligent of him. I remember him selling coin banks. Ang sipag samantalang ako tamad tamad. Lol! He is also a student council treasurer of our school’s organization ACES-PICE. Btw, he won the elections by a super landslide (I’m so proud! He deserves all the votes yessssss!!) He hosts civil engineering events on our school too even without any talent fee — just love. Ain’t he the nicest?

Last year, November 2018 we had a ball and he hosted it. He had a co-host and it irked me to hear that there was an instance where a student officer handed a food for his co-host and had nothing for K. Jesus. What the actual fuck? She even asked K to hand the food to his co-host.

Man, I saw all K’s efforts for that whole week, for that whole event, he hosted the event without asking for any fee but to treat him like that, like “Wag ka na bigyan ng pagkain, sayang budget.

Where’s the appreciation? Where’s the consideration.

Ano ba naman yung kahit food nalang oh. Sick. Don’t get me wrong but that student officer is a trash. Sorry not sorry. I’m so angry lol.

As a busy officer that night, I still managed to eat at the buffet, K was so occupied with the hosting and the only time he was able to munch something was when I brought my plate backstage and he had a few bites of my food. I hate that I wasn’t able to do anything for him that time. Ugh.

After that night, I appreciated him more as a person. I didn’t have heavy feelings yet but I barely noticed that the path I was taking was on the way there.

I started with throwing banats and cheesy jokes on him on our group chat. Our friends laugh at us a lot because I am their friend that they can’t imagine being with a guy more because I AM THAT INTO GIRLS FOR ALMOST MY WHOLE LIFE and K is so gay that he’s like created by the heavens for a guy. Then it went on and on then one day I realized, I really like this person.

I went crazy. I locked myself in a room and evaluated myself and my feelings. Maybe I’m lost? It’s just a crush but no it wasn’t JUST a crush. I kept it for myself for a while. I never saw it coming — me liking a friend who is gay who is biologically a man. That is like against all my rules and against the norm.

I remained silent. I didn’t want to make things awkward but people were right. The more you hide what you feel, the more it demands to manifest.

Then I couldn’t take it anymore. I had to tell someone about it and I told one of the marupoks, Abbi, about it (love her). She was startled because as I’ve said, it was against all my rules and the norm but she is the most understanding and open minded person in our group, she knew how great K is and there is literally nothing not to like about him.

Then I continued to keep all my feelings to myself. Some of the squad started to ask me who am I blushing to, who is my crush but I kept it hidden and when I drop K’s name, they won’t take it seriously. I thought it was a good coincidence.

I gave him a polo top as a Christmas gift from H&M. I thought of buying it because I remember one time he showed me a polo top from a shop (I forgot) and he looked so amused by it. Hindi naman siya maluho that’s why I thought it wouldn’t hurt to buy him something he can use and might like, right?

Man, it’s been ages since I felt that feeling. You know? Going to a mall and thinking what is a good thing to buy for him? This looks good on him? He might like this. I forgot myself and that’s so rare.

My friends think I’m joking whenever I put efforts for K but the truth is I’m actually expressing. I thought maybe K would find it as a joke too because I’ve been very playful with him ever since but then as days go by, I don’t know if I’m getting off guard or if he is just that sensitive to notice. Some of them started to worry about me.

Baka masaktan ka.

‘pag ikaw umiyak—

Control control lang.

I always tell them he’s just my happy crush but I knew I was in love.

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Trip to Masasa Beach Tingloy, Batangas

IT’S MORE FUN IN THE PHILIPPINES!

A place without wifi signal and cellular signal, a place where you’re left only with clear beaches and cheap houses for rent.

I won’t say that Masasa Beach is as stable and marvelous as the newly renovated Boracay or other established beaches in the Philippines but one thing I liked about this beach is it’s so raw. It’s like a newly discovered beach that hasn’t been overly used or populated by visitors. It’s raw, it’s hidden, it’s a sanctuary.

From Anilao port, you have to ride a boat to Masasa Beach for about P60 if I remember correctly, there is NO other way than to ride a boat as the beach is in an island about 30-45 minutes away from the port.

Upon arriving in Masasa, there will be a lot of people welcoming you and offering your cheap house rentals for you to stay in during your vacation and I must say, they’re SUPER CHEAP.

We rented a house having P300/person per night. The house owners were also there to assist us buying coals if we wanted to grill, cooking rice for us as we rest ourselves from the long trip, cooking and grilling foods for us, entertaining us. They also accompany us with free tricycle rides whenever we go down to the beach which is about 5 mins away from the inn. They also served as our tour guide and photographer during our whole stay. They just made us feel at home.

The house was big enough to accommodate all of us (10 persons). It has three bedrooms, comfort rooms and karaoke.

Let’s now talk about the beach. We went snorkeling and Pawikan searching. We rented two boats for P600 each with a capacity of 5 persons per boat plus the tour guide.

The boat drove us to three islands and stopped somewhere in between the beach so we can snorkel down and see the huge Pawikans swimming down about 30 feet below the surface of the water. We also fed fish with some bread after the Pawikan search. It was indeed mesmerizing.

Sorry I wasn’t able to take photos of it, I was too busy appreciating the beauty of the animals in their habitat and the wonders of nature and of course, the Philippines.

We also visited the lagoon with such sky blue waters and the cave with two entrance which is quite terrifying because the waves suddenly raged when we entered the cave as if it doesn’t want us to leave. Yikes.

The whole place really didn’t have much cellular signal and if you happen to get some, it’s not even enough to send a message. We had some social media and onlien detox during this getaway. Me and my friend purely bonded because we didn’t have much reasons to hold our phones and be distracted — which is cool.

This vacation felt like a get away from all our stresses and problems in life. Masasa Beach is like another world to us, it gave us sanity and peace of mind. The views gave us solace and the nature didn’t fail to impress us.

Roughly computing my budget for this trip back and forth from Manila is about P1,800 including all the foods, meat and other pasalubong I bought. Not bad for a perfect getaway.

Let’s talk about Dakasi Milk Tea drinks

It’s a good day and here I am craving for milk teas again but then I wanna try something new so I looked over GrabFood milk tea places and saw Dakasi.

During my first order, I had their Okinawa Milk Tea for P140 (Large) and the Dakasi Bubble Milk Tea P140. I tried a lot of milk tea shops and I wasn’t really a big fan of Okinawa but man, Dakasi’s Okinawa Milk Tea can fight that. I super love their Okinawa. It’s milky yet you can still taste the tea flavor in it. Perfect blend. It’s like a better and more legit tea version of D’Cream Special more because you can still get that leafy taste unlike D’Cream special na very milky na. About the Dakasi Bubble Milk Tea, it’s a legit milk tea and I have to say it’s good but there’s nothing so special about it.

Below is their menu. (UPDATE: Prices changed and went a little higher)

On my next order, I tried their Roasted Okinawa Milk Tea and Oreo Milk Tea. I ordered Roasted Okinawa because I was impressed by the Okinawa drink but in my opinion, it’s not as good as Okinawa. Roasted Okinawa is like a dull tasting milk tea, not worth the price. Oreo Milk Tea is basically Dakasi Bubble Milk Tea with Oreo bits in it — I still prefer Affinitea’s Oreo Milk Tea with Cream Puff.

Moving on, I tried something new again because it happened that I tried Macao Imperial Tea’s Uji Matcha and it was heaven so I thought maybe Dakasi’s Creme Matcha Plumule is a good alternative so I ordered it.

Honestly, it’s taste is really really new to me plus the plumule is a rare and new topping to my drink. The beverage itself, you can taste the matcha and the milk but I think the milk and the plumule overpowers the matcha leafy taste. I can say that it’s a unique drink but I cannot say that everyone will like it.

I also tried their Chocolate Cereal Drink because I really like the old tea house’s named Qtea’s Chocolate with Love in Ermita (it’s closed now) and I thought maybe this may come close but then turns out I ordered a drink that has a texture of quaker oats with chocolate milk. Chocolate cereal drink nga naman, why am I surprised?

In a nutshell, the best drink to order here is Okinawa Milk Tea with Pearls.

Summary:

Taste: 4/5

Price: 3/5

Packaging: 3/5

Best ramen? Mendokoro Ramenba

I am not really a big fan of ramen though it looks really appetizing when I see Naruto craves for it but then everything changed when I tried Mendokoro Ramenba’s ramen in Makati.

My friend once suggested it and she’s been really an explorer in the food world so it wasn’t that hard for her to convince me to try this one out despite it’s kinda pricey meals.

That’s Shoyu up there to tease you as you continue reading this review.

Of course, here’s the menu of the restaurant.

First of all, I wanna talk about the fact that Mendokoro always have these long lines so be sure to go here on dead hours to avoid such or if not, don’t come here if your stomach is at the state of “I’m super hungry, feed me”. The waiting usually lasts for 15-30minutes so there, I warned you. It’s worth the wait tho.

I tried all their Tonkotsu Ramens before I decided to write this blog post and to sum it up, all of them are HELLA GOOD, there’s no part or ingredient of the ramen that you would like to put aside and not eat because it’s all perfect but my favorite is Shio ramen.

For starters, I would also recommend the Shio ramen.

• Shio – it has a milky, creamy, salty ramen base. It’s like the classic original ramen of Japan. Thank Jesus for this one.

• Shoyu – it’s like Shio except that it has a special soy sauce — basically that’s why it’s called Shoyu.

• Tantanmen – This one is their actual spicy ramen. It’s hella good too but I am not really a big fan of spicy foods so this has to be my least favorite.

• Miso – It’s base is miso ramen but the best statement to describe this one is it has tons of toppings and bean sprout (toge) that its soup is highly influenced by the taste of toge and personally, I prefer to taste the ramen than the bean sprouts so this makes Miso go on my number 3 spot.

Before everything else, let me spoil you with the best part of Mendokoro’s ramen…

IT’S THE CHASU

A.k.a that beef on top of the noodles. It’s taste is so distinct, it’s so tasty and it’s so soft that the beef feels like melting in your mouth and it just compliments the whole ramen bowl. I swear to God, I always save this beef for the last bite.

You know what they say? Save the best for the last.

Before I end this post, let me remind you that Mendokoro doesn’t allow take outs so save yourself from the humiliation. They doesn’t want anyone to figure out their secret recipe so NO TAKE OUTS!

Price: 3/5

Food Quality: 5/5

Serving: 5/5

Will recommend? HELL YES.

Will comeback again? If I have enough budget! :p